How far is too far?

Hello my sweethearts, good morning, how is everyone doing, its a beautiful morning and enjoying the cool inspirational vibes am listening to, inspiration wednesday promises to be interesting tommorrow, do make it a date.

 I really am battling with putting today's topic up, but then again, this issue has been on my mind for a long time, and then again i realise that so many singles are having issues with this topic too, a lot of people have actually asked me on this issue too, but i don't have the correct answer to it

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5 simple ways to make you and your partner stay in love

  Hello LD readers, thanks so much for the love and encouragement on yesterday's post, i feel blessed and honured to be on blogsville, God bless you all, i feel way better and refreshed all thanks to you all.

 Do you know you can be in a relationship or marriage and not be in love??? Do you even know that love is like a garden, if not tended to or taken care of and watered, it could become ugly and the beauty could die? Have you ever wondered why two people who were in love turned out not liking eachother again? Well the answer is Love needs constant nuturing and oiling and greasing for the fame to continue to burn, often times because we have been with our partner for long either in relationship or marriage, we tend to let our guards down and we don"t remember to do simple things that flames love again, here are the 5 things you can do to make the flames of your love keep burning for long

What Do you look out for in a spouse??

Hello Lovely LD fam, good morning sweethearts, Happy new week, How was your weekend, mine was awesome, you remember i said my brother was getting married this month, last Saturday was the D-day, i enjoyed myself, as i got to see people i have not seen in years and all of them be looking at me and saying, you are all grown now...lol, i had so much fun, as i even participated in the catching of the Bride's bouquet though i didn't catch, Sunday was beautiful too, it was mid-year thanksgiving and i enjoyed the service, all in all, my Weekend was glam.

   Now straight to today's post because i know i have not been blogging consistently this month, During the wedding it just dawned on me that at least every marriage went through the wedding process, the bride and groom having radiant smiles on their faces and everywhere looking beautiful, but how come we have so many failed marriages, why do some people have so many awful stories of hurt in their marriage, where have we missed it when it comes to marriage??

The power of a Woman

Hello my beautifuls, yes i know i have not been consistent on blogsville lately, power supply has been terrible and then i have been a bit lazy lately, am sorry dearies, and i am wishing you a very aazing and fruitful week ahead

  Yes, i am excited about today's post, one of the things i am most thankful for is been a woman,yes the bible says we are the weaker vessels but in reality we are stronger than the strongest, if you are a woman and you know how to use your power of being a woman well, i believe you can get anything done because if we set our hearts to do anything, we always get it done

6 Red flags to look out for in any relationship

Hello my people, *kneels down* am sorry for not putting up love the greatest of all 2 up yesterday as promised, i went to an owanbe, it was a wedding and i was enjoying the groove of the new bride and groom, that i could not type the post, because i was too excited, i can't wait for my big day too, it was an exciting experience mehn, well next Sunday by God's grace the post will be up, hope my apology is accepted?

Well i believe in knowledge and finding out about things, so thats why am presenting you this six traits below, have a blessed week ahead lovelies

Red flags are violations of proper dating etiquette and standards. Everyone dating should protect their hearts and minds from those looking to abuse them. Everyone wants love, and everyone deserves love. No one, however, deserves to be abused.

These six red flags below indicate things to watch out for when you’re dating someone. If someone is currently treating you this way or starts to treat you in any of these ways in the future, RUN! Don’t look back!

1. They Want to Change

You Have you only been dating for a short period of time and they are already telling you they hate your life-long friends? That is a HUGE red flag! Have they already been encouraging you to move in with them, or worse yet, move out from where you’re currently living with family, friends, or your own apartment to a place they feel will be more fitting, alone? Do they complain about the way you do your hair, what clothes you wear, and try to watch yourevery move? Do they laugh at your dreams and goals telling you that they are stupid or that you should focus on something else?You, my friend, are dating a control freak, and you should run as fast as you can! Control freaks don’t really love you or accept you the way you are. They simply want you to fit the narrative of what they feel the perfect partner is for them. They want someone they can watch and break down. Life is too short to live it the way someone else thinks you should live it.

LOVE-The greatest of all

 Hello LD fam, Happy Sunday, how did your weekend go, i love Sundays, i can't explain why, well here is wishing every BV a blessed and wonderful week ahead.

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  Today i want to talk about Love, Love is when you go out of your way to make another person better,even God encourages Love,Love is the greatest of all commands,
Galatians 5:22 says For the fruit of the spirit is Love,joy....
 when you have Love you are manifesting the fruit of the spirit, now you can show love to anybody, Love yourself, Love your Neighbor, show love to that stranger, show love to that Old Man/Woman on the street, show love to people that can not repay you back, yes thats how to manifest the fruit of the spirit Love, if we love ourselves and we show love as much as possible to every human, am sure the world will be a lot better than it is now

LOVE THURSDAY- 10 PERSONALITY TRAITS IN WOMEN THAT MEN LOVE

Without wasting much time, I will get right to the point. I am going to give you 10 personality attributes that men love to see in the women they fall headover heels in love with. Men are attracted to women that are:

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1. Intelligent –This attribute ranks veryhigh, after men have gotten past your looks. Men love women that are smart, opinionated, and articulate. Most enjoyspeaking to women who have their own point of view on subjects and are passionate in discussing affairs of the day. Men love to debate, and if you canmake them believe, or at least respect, your point of view, then you have a man that will see you as an equal, and not as an ornament to be displayed to the rest of the world until the next bestornament comes his way.

10 types of men ladies should avoid

Hello dearest LD fam, happy new week, hope you have a blessed and
 fulfill week ahead, pardon me for the unannounced break i took during
 the weekend, i just really had to clear my mind of some things, how is
 everyone doing? well we all are doing an ultimate search for something
 in our love and relationship life as ladies right??? every lady lady is
searching for Mr right, so today i just thought to share 10 types of men
 we do not like and that we must stay away from, so for the ladies
 please take note and the men too can take note so that they can adjust,
 the rate of failed marriages are too alarming to ignore the signs  *winks*

The Liar:
 He takes every slight opportunity to lie, he lies to people in your presence
 without flinching and when he lies, you can almost believe him use he
 is good at it, run far away from him

The Bad boy
At one time or another, every girl has a thing for the guy
 who just doesn’t play by the rules. He’s perpetually angry, 
acts like a tough guy and looks damn good while doing it. 
But the juvenile attraction to the bad boys of our youth can
 quickly fade when rebellion turns into recklessness. The bad
 boys will just break your heart... or the law. And these rebels 
without a clue top the list of types of men to avoid on the dating scene.

LADIES , 5 SIGNS HE IS IN LOVE WITH YOU

     Hello lovely people,  how are you doing today? well am not fine, as am

 feeling very sick, but then again , i have to go to work and i have to be 

here too, but as soon as i put up this post, i will take some a lil rest, so i 

was talking to one of my bae  this morning and while talking sha, we talked

 about a guy dats been on her case for long, and she said he has been 

showing that he loves her, and thats the inspiration for this post, signs to

 show he is in love with you:

  He is Proud to show you off; you know sometimes in a relationship,

  especially if the relationship is not based on love, the guy just tries

 all his best to hide the babe from everyone, his friends and family 

members, thats a big sign the babe is a side chick and maybe they have

 already been introduced to the main babe, if he loves you, he

 would be proud to show you off to the world and he would always tell

 everyone that cares to listen about you and about how happy you make him feel.

30 Ways To Learn To Love yourself and be happy with the World 2

Hello lovely people, yeah you remember yesterday we started sharing
30 ways to love ourselves and be happy with the world right??? and 
yesterday i shared the first 15 so today i will be sharing 16-30, so relax
 and enjoy, if you didn't see 1-15 that i posted yesterday, you can check it here

16. Care about your appearance — not in a vain, superficial way. 
Care about how you look, so you can feel great when you leave the
 house. But, if you feel like wearing sweatpants and your hair in a bun
 to the grocery store once in a while, go do it.

17. Watch that movie or that Netflix series you’ve been meaning to see.

18. Be active. Exercising regularly releases endorphins and contributes to

 your level of happiness and will help you feel better about yourself.

19. Pick up a hobby. My roommates and I ordered paint-by-numbers 

from Amazon. It made me feel creative and allowed for some 

roommate bonding time.

30 Ways To Learn To Love Yourself And Be Happy With The World 1

Hello lovely people, TGIF, and do have a lovely weekend and remember to
come share with us on Monday, i read this Article on Elite daily and i thought to
 share with ya all, its really a long piece so i broke it into two, i would post the
 remaining part tomorrow enjoy!

  Many people (including me) speak about “self-love”: figure yourself out,
 love yourself before you get into a relationship… and so it goes. However,
 you only truly obtain self-love by having compassion for the self, so you can
appreciate and do considerate deeds for others.

Along my path to learn about myself and work on my own self-love, I discovered
several major truths that still resonate with me and support my personal effort.
I am a constant work in progress, as most of us are. To help you gain more perspective and have a foundation on which to begin your journey of self-love, here are 30 truths to remember:

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. People achieve success and fail at
 different rates.

2. You’re not as fat as you think. Besides, your body fat percentage has
 no bearing on what makes you a quality human being.

3. Exercise because it is good for your soul and not solely for your outward
experience. Appreciate your body and all the things it can do. Stop picking it
 apart — you will never achieve perfection.

4. Find something at which you excel. Maybe you are really amazing at working
with kids and you just don’t know it yet.

LOVE THURSDAY- AGE WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE

Hello fam, Good morning, today is thursday and it is a day that reminds us that the weekend is around the corner and owanbe saturday is close by, its been really long i went to a party though i will be attending one soonest anyways

 Today is another feature of Love Thursday, remember if you have any issue you feel you want us to discuss on this feature you can send me a mail, ayanbajoajibike7957@gmail. com, you can read the first feature of Love Thursday here

 Different strokes for different folks, for some Ladies, they like their spouse to be very much older than them,because to those people older men are more matured and they offer more security while for some ladies they prefer there spouse to be within there Age range.

LOVE THURSDAY: BEING FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX; COOL OR NOT COOL

Hello lovely people, wow, today is the last day of the month of April, happy new month
 in advance lovely people, i don't know why but am so excited today.
  As a new feature to the blog, am bringing LOVE THURSDAY to you, so every Thursday,
 i will bring issues on Love and relationship here to be discussed, you may have issues
 you like to be discussed here, do send me a mail ayanbajoajibike7957@gmail.com
  and i will publish it, lets do this together people

 so on today's post we will be talking about being friends with your Ex, a lot of
people don't allow their spouses to be friends with their Ex because most times they
don't feel secure about this friendship, for some they think there could be spill over
 feelings while other people don't just like the idea at all, for me i don't see anything
 wrong in it, as i believe that been friends with an Ex does not mean any harm, once
 am done then am done, and then i believe that No one is an island, someday somehow
, our paths could still cross will i say because we once dated and it didn't work out then
 i can't help or can't receive help from an Ex.
 Yes i know some Ex left bitter pills, but then again we already talked about forgiveness
 and letting go, so i want to hear from you, do you think its ok to be friends with your Ex
 or are you are part of the team no way once we are done ,we are done, we can't be
 friends and another thing is can you allow your spouse be friends with their EX?

WEDDING VERSUS MARRIAGE

Hello beautiful people, how are you today? Trust you fine, the month of April is gradually
 coming to an end, am so excited, whoop! it means alert go soon enter bah?

 Well this post is going to be very short but i hope it will be very interactive too,
i have noticed a norm that is fast becoming part of our society, i noticed that this
days people care more about wedding than marriage,

Ask me how? for so many reasons the big day takes the whole of a person's mind that
sometimes they just ignore the important things to look out for before marriage like
 i discussed here , for some people they just want their friends and everyone that has
 mocked them to see that they are getting married too, so they focus so much on wedding
 rather than marriage and after marriage, for other people the desperation to just be called
 Mrs something just makes them want wedding more than marriage while for other people
 so that the society can accept them, they stage a wedding forgetting that marriage is an institution,
 so let's talk, Do you think wedding is fast overshadowing the purpose of marriage and why do you
think so, or you don't agree with me on this issue, let's talk please people make this as interactive as possible.......

10 TIPS TO HELP YOU FIND THE MAN OF YOUR DREAMS

Hello lovelies, how are you doing today? i hate Mondays and the seriousness that comes with it, so here is something to lighten your mood ,
 so on Friday April 24th, Lagos socialite Joro Olumofin shared Tips on how to stop being single on his Instagram page, read what he says below;

(1) Remove guys from your friendzone list: “Friendzone” is a mental classification or categorization of a guy or group of guys in a lady’s mind I.e she sees a guy as a non sexual object or as a brother. Some single  ladies today see having a lot of guys on their friendzone list as an achievement or an award, they enjoy the fact that guys keep trying to get their attention or approval while they call him things like “bro” , “cuz” , “G” “padi” as a means to discourage him from trying to talk to them.. My question is if you’re single and you’re looking for a boyfriend why have so many guys as just friends without giving them chances? Or opportunities to prove themselves. Marriage counsellors have revealed that most couples were initially just friends or co-workers. Un-friendzone some guys and see where it leads, you may just be swept off your feet..

2) Smile Often ; Look Approachable: A lot of guys are discouraged to approach a Lady who has a strong or mean face. They may be scared of instant rejection or think you’re just mean. Primacy Effect in Psychology makes emphasis on first impression being an important factor in perception. So Ladies if your face is strong and your heart is soft make an effort to smile more.
(3) Change your normal routine (try a new church, bar, cinema, beach) : If you’re a single lady and you’ve been attending the same church, cinema, bars for the past 16 months and there is no visible suitor I suggest you switch the branch of your church from Ikeja to Surulere, or Apapa to VI. This is a Process known as randomization; doing something different or attending new places will give you a new set of possibilities of meeting new suitors.

HAPPY IST ANNIVERSARY TIWA AND TUNJI BALOGUN

 @ Life's diary, we like to celebrate Love and wedding, Here is wishing Tunji and Tiwa Balogun a happy wedding anniversary, May God continue to make their love wax stronger. Beautiful couple!

To celebrate the anniversary the lovely couple treated themselves to a romantic dinner, see pics below

 choi...isn't this beautiful? Love is a beautiful thing, isn't it?

DATE MISTAKES YOU SHOULD AVOID

  Hello sweet people, how are you today, i feel so excited today, so whats its with
south Africans, are we not one in the kingdom of God???
   Well, we all love dates don't we? we all like those moments when we go out with
someone for a while, its amazing how some mistakes can be a turn off to that person
 who took you out or you that was taken out and you will be like,i won't go out with
this person anymore,especially if its a first date, you must get your acts together,
because there is no redo button for first impression,

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 Below are the common mistakes that can be disgusting;

BEING LATE;this is a total no no,no one likes to be kept waiting, it could be
annoying when one party has to wait so long before the other party arrives,
 especially if you both agreed to a certain time, it could speak volume on a
person's time management skills

DON'T COME WITH A FRIEND; two is company, three is a crowd,
don't come with a friend except you guys have agreed about it before.

BITING YOUR NAILS: sometimes dates might be awkward especially if its a
first date or you are not so farmilar with your date, but biting your nails is a bad
way to ease the tension, its a bad habit and its disgusting, yuck! its a big turn off.

FONDLING YOUR CELL PHONE OR GADGETS: don't relay on your gadgets
 to keep you company, when you have a date who is suppose to do that, it is
 annoying and irritating when you feel you don't have your date's attention .
 fondling with your gadgets may mean you are not so into your date, and you
 don't want to portray that outside

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TALKING WHEN YOUR MOUTH IS FULL: talking when your mouth is full is
bad table etiquette, and you don't want to let your date know that you have bad table
manners right? it even disgust some people, so don't ever try it.

  DON'T FORGET TO BE MODERATE; don't eat too much, don't talk too much,
 don't try to impress, just be yourself.

WOMEN ARE LIKE PLANTS

     Hello darlings, good morning, happy weekend, tanks so much for your 

 love and concern on yesterday's post, God bless you all abundantly.

 so there has been this random thought on my mind for a while, i have

 come to realise that when you are in love nothing matters to you than being

 loved back and for ladies lemme say the only things that matters is love, 

care and attention. so when i saw this article on Facebook, i totally felt the

 writer just put my mind in words; enjoy

Women are like Plants! They are Mother Nature!

They need constant Love!Care!& Attention to grow

just the way you want them to...

If these three things aint available from YOU who claims to

Love them,then be rest assured SOMEONE else is standing 

by to assume your duty...

Yes! A relationship is full time job, but the job itself is the woman

 you're in it with! Notwithstanding though, Men are also meant 

to be Cared for/Attended to,but its unlike women.....

Being Realistic here, women love LOVE!

so, if they lack it from YOU! then they'd give in to the NEXT 

available giver...

so! while you are going unto a woman, make sure you 

don't slack on these Three things, else, you'd come out

saying WOMEN ARE INSATIABLE CHEATS!

UNCONTENTIOUS &so on

you have to be constant on them!..

 if  you can't, then don't bother going after them

so thats it, i agree with the writer to some extent because when a woman 

is in love, money or other things does not matter, what matters most is the 

love, care and attention...what do you think???

5 THINGS TO LOOK OUT FOR IN A SPOUSE

Yipeee ladies get in here, u knw av gat ya backs anytime right? Okay how is everyone doing, m glad to be here again.
So on today's post am going to be talking about 5 things we should look out for in a spouse as Ladies, when I read chronicles of women who are suffering in their marriages, I get goose bumps seeing how people who are suppose to be their better half, maltreat them.so let's get straight to the matter;
He MUST be God fearing
   Yes, he must be God fearing, he must love God and  fear God,  because if he does, he will love and treat you right, the fear of God will make him obey God's word, and the word of God clearly state that he should love and cherish you Ephesians 5:25:28, he will do things he can't do in his natural human instinct for you because he is tuned to God, his heart will be so tender because he loves and obey God and some things are just a no go area for him because of his love for God, so this is the ist and most important feature anyone must look out for in a spouse.
LOVE
Of course love is the basis for all we are talking about, he must love and cherish you, he must love having you around, his love must be patient, kind, and not be self seeking 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV . You must be the Apple of his eyes.
      COMPATIBILITY
  The fit is important too, Are your goals complimentary??, are you guys looking in the same direction? Do u guys agree on important issues pertaining to the two of you, cause after the romance wears out when you guys are married, you ll want to go back to achieving your dreams and if you find yourself with someone that is nt in agreement with you, you ll consider him an hindrance rather than help, make sure your lifestyle and every other thing fits
     RESPONSIBILITY
This for me is another important thing, remember we ladies as the wife have to submit? He can one submit to an irresponsible man? That is why one has to consider a responsible man when looking out for a spouse, he must be someone who's got his act together, he must be able to provide, preside and protect, he must be someone who knows what he is doing and sets his priorities right, he must be someone you can trust and submit to.
  ATTITUDE/CHARACTER
    This will go a long way in affecting you when u eventually marry him so u av to make sure to get this right, what's he made of??? Does he possess character? wisdom? Compassion? Integrity? Honesty? Or does he av anger issues? Is he violent? How is his relationship with his family? His friend? How does he treat that sales attendant or the people that attend to him in public places? Am sure if you rate him with the answers to this questions, you ll know his character.
  Thanks for reading, do share what you feel in the comment section and remember to share someone might need this.