Thursday, July 30, 2015

10 factors that scare Nigerian men away from marriage

Hello beautiful people, *pops collar, i know ya all went to know where and what i have been up to, well in subsequent post i will talk about it, so, it is a general believe that Nigerian men shy away from marriage, when i read this reasons i knew i had to share, i totally i agree with no2 ,3,7,8,10, lets talk in the comments section, what do you think?

So, what are those factors that scare Nigerian men away from marriage? We have tried to compile some reasons that make most men feel jittery to converse on ‘Marriage’ as topic, feel free to add yours if not in our list.

1. No wife materials: Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to ladies not being in quantifiable distribution among men, what they are complaining about is that most ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes that will qualify them for the lifetime commitment called marriage. If this is the case, time of quality search can help heal the wound of such man.

2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past: Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole. But, this might not be the fault of women as promiscuity is not an exclusive act than can be carried out without the consent of either gender.

3. Nigeria weddings are expensive: In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. As of last year, the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N500,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost. For most people, especially in this economy, that’s a lot of money. But all we advise is that men should try and cut their coat according to their material

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Inspiration Wednesday- Character traits of sucessful people

Where do i start apologizing from??? No reason i just stopped coming around, hello people Good morning, Happy mid week, how is everyone doing??? how has blogsville been in my absence, am going round as soon as i drop this post, to see things myself, shoutout to everyone Who drops by, i can't begin to mention all your names, but i know God ll best you all abundantly.

Every one dreams and longs to be sucessful, but not everyone has what it takes to be sucessful, sucessful people have the most horrible stories of failure and downfall in life, but they have certain character traits that makes them standout, which is what we are going to talk about today, read and be inspired!

Saturday, July 18, 2015

Secrets of an irresistable Woman

 Hello everyone,*clears cobwebs* am sorry for just going and coming back as i like, nothing to blame it on except my laziness, but i promise, i will make amends by God's grace.

Ask any lady of this age and time, what do you want in a spouse, and she goes, a man that will take of me, love me, cherish me...blah blah me, one word that is constant 'ME' , it only means such a person just wants to go and be receiving without giving back, and believe such marriages never work, as a woman, what are you bringing to the table, before you can seek the heart of a king, you must be a Queen, so before you write a journal or long list of what you want in a man, be sure to be a woman of value, a virtuous woman,an irresistable woman whose price is far above rubies

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

How far is too far?

Hello my sweethearts, good morning, how is everyone doing, its a beautiful morning and enjoying the cool inspirational vibes am listening to, inspiration wednesday promises to be interesting tommorrow, do make it a date.

 I really am battling with putting today's topic up, but then again, this issue has been on my mind for a long time, and then again i realise that so many singles are having issues with this topic too, a lot of people have actually asked me on this issue too, but i don't have the correct answer to it
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Monday, July 13, 2015

Social media;A blessing or a curse???

Hian, am not good at singing,i would have sang an introductory love song for all BVs but not to worry, i ll someday, For now, thanks to everyone who stops by this space, thanks for your amazing views and comments, God bless you all, Happy new week people, how is the weather like in your side? Well its going to be a bright Monday here, this was supposed to be friday's post but  my blogger app was just messing up all througg the weekend

  Lets discuss something interesting today, am a big fan of social media; facebook, bbm, twitter, instagram,youtube,blogs e.t.c, well am addicted to some of this platforms because i could get to talk to almost anyone i want to talk to by just chatting with them, facebook updates me on events and things about my friends and loved ones, then i kind of love talking about politics and the state of the nation, facebook and twitter does all the job, instagram is my go to place for update on trends, latest music, latest outfit,celebrity gist and, to me social media is a huge blessing but on the other way round, sometimes i hate social media because people tend to hide behind the screen of their phones, pc or tablet to spew bad vibes to other people especially celebs, another one is all this sexually provocative pictures and videos plastered all over facebook attimes and then people have turned everything in Nigeria to social media jokes with different hashtags and memes...

    But all in all, social media in my own opinion is still a blessing, its a platform we can now use to speak out as youth, its a platform we can use to know whats going on in the society, its a platform we can use to learn new things and its a platform we can use to keep close contact...whats your opinion? Is social media a curse or a blessing???

Thursday, July 9, 2015

5 simple ways to make you and your partner stay in love

  Hello LD readers, thanks so much for the love and encouragement on yesterday's post, i feel blessed and honured to be on blogsville, God bless you all, i feel way better and refreshed all thanks to you all.

 Do you know you can be in a relationship or marriage and not be in love??? Do you even know that love is like a garden, if not tended to or taken care of and watered, it could become ugly and the beauty could die? Have you ever wondered why two people who were in love turned out not liking eachother again? Well the answer is Love needs constant nuturing and oiling and greasing for the fame to continue to burn, often times because we have been with our partner for long either in relationship or marriage, we tend to let our guards down and we don"t remember to do simple things that flames love again, here are the 5 things you can do to make the flames of your love keep burning for long

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Inspiration wednesday-you have to be strong

Hello my beautiful people, how is everyone doing??? Choi...i missed this space mehn,i missed everyone...*side eyes* to Amaka, reading her comment this morning made me laugh out loud and it really did melt my i had to quickly open blogger...

   Well Inspiration wednesday today is talking to jibbyks, i wish i could pour out my heart here, *But some people who knows me personally, come here annoymously*i wish behind the smiles and happiness i show to people around me the pain in my heart could show but no it does not because i know i have to be strong....

  Have you ever felt so much pain deep within that you can't talk to anyone about it because words can't explain how you feel or you feel people can't understand you, thats exactly how have been feeling lately...but i know that this too shall pass if i am strong, life is throwing me different punches but i won't allow myself to be down for long because this is part of the sharpening, i have to go through, because nothing good comes easy in life and so that i can be more grateful when i reach my goal...

But as am typing this post, my heavy heart is melting..... i know before the year runs out, testimony shall every situation you have to be strong, you have to wrap your struggles in strength and just let God fix it which is exactly what am doing now and what you should try to do too..
  Am back and better!

Friday, July 3, 2015

Where did gender equality travel to?

Hello my deareat LD fam, how is your day going, mine is going coldly, as the weather is too cold for me to deal with, i wish i could just be indoor all day but i can't be lazy around here, i have to go to work *rolls eyes*

   Let me go straight to the reason of today's post, during my final year in the uni, one of the 8 Mdg goals i was thought was gender equality, but in reality i feel there cannot be such thing, the male gender is still very much favoured than the female gender...  if a woman is pregnant, and she gives birth to a female child as ist born, female as second born and third born, the family is deemed not complete until she brings forth a male child, whereas if  its the other way round its no issue..
i was forced to ask my dad, why is it that after sending your male and female children to school,after Nysc, the male child must go and hustle or start a life anywhere he likes while the female must continue anything she wants to do under your roof or she ll be termed a rebel?

Thursday, July 2, 2015


Hello LD readers, do you believe this? Mz Geneiveve Nnaji posted this on instagram some hours ago, well i agree to an extent though...

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Inspiration Wednesday- Be thankful for little things

Yaay... Goodmorning ,my beautifuls, Happy new month, its my prayer that July will be good to each and everyone of us, it will bring us all love, joy, hapiness and promotion In jesus name, its the second half of the year already, 2015 is gradually running to an end...