Thursday, July 30, 2015

10 factors that scare Nigerian men away from marriage

Hello beautiful people, *pops collar, i know ya all went to know where and what i have been up to, well in subsequent post i will talk about it, so, it is a general believe that Nigerian men shy away from marriage, when i read this reasons i knew i had to share, i totally i agree with no2 ,3,7,8,10, lets talk in the comments section, what do you think?

So, what are those factors that scare Nigerian men away from marriage? We have tried to compile some reasons that make most men feel jittery to converse on ‘Marriage’ as topic, feel free to add yours if not in our list.

1. No wife materials: Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to ladies not being in quantifiable distribution among men, what they are complaining about is that most ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes that will qualify them for the lifetime commitment called marriage. If this is the case, time of quality search can help heal the wound of such man.

2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past: Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole. But, this might not be the fault of women as promiscuity is not an exclusive act than can be carried out without the consent of either gender.

3. Nigeria weddings are expensive: In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. As of last year, the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N500,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost. For most people, especially in this economy, that’s a lot of money. But all we advise is that men should try and cut their coat according to their material


4. In search of a ‘working class’: Today, most Nigerian men are in search of awife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, theincreasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man,the burden of building a home.

5. Fear of freedom: There is a common belief among some men that marriage puts an end to one’s freedom. Single men today are much more proud about not being dependent and being on their own. They fear marriage because they will become answerable for every action they take to their spouse. That is one big responsibility some men are not ready to take up.

6. Career: One of the predominant question most men will secretly ask themselves before making the decision to marry are, Will my partner make agitated about me being in office for long hours? Will he or she understand my love for my career? These are cogent questions and answering these questions could slow the decisive actions to be taken on marriage plans.

7. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws: Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships. If the expectations are behavioral, the challenge might be little but e are some discouraging situations where parents decide the profession qualifications, properties, etc thatmust be acquired by the suitor before they can give out their child to him in marriage.

8. Trust issues: Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

9. Bad Testimonies from Married couple: Generally, most men get intimidated by marriage as a result of the testimonies they hear from those in marriage. Before getting into marriage talks, it is a common thing among men to ask their brothers, friends who are already married on how the social institution is and the testimonies they get are most times discouraging, as such they fear their marriage will be a replica of the testimonies they have gathered.

10. Cultural limitations: Nigeria is a country with diverse culture and The diversity sometimes create challenges for men who are in search of women with similar culture. The good thing though is thatthose who endeavor to explore inter-culturalrelationships get the opportunity to gain an in-depth appreciation of other customs.
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16 comments:

  1. Interesting thoughts indeed, greetings!

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  2. any man that is readyto marry will marry... dese reasons are too trivial jor


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  3. Nice write up. Kudos.

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  4. I agree with Favour. The man who is not ready is not ready to marry.

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    1. Yea, marriage is a beautiful thing if you have the one that works and that you enjoy, and the dream of everyone is to have, but everyone has a reason to delay, the list was the reason for a delay. all d best.

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  5. These points are much o. Yes you made a lot of sense but i guess that is why marriage is for men and not for boys. Oyah gist us o where went you? Have a blessed weekend you all.



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  6. Great one, I agree with point number 4.

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  7. Smilling...there are so many reasons why he wont want to get married.

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  8. Oooooooosssshhheeey Turn uP! Hiaan! Hiya Bubba! **Cleans Sweat.. phewww... Mmmmeeehnn Eezz not a Joking Sturvzz oh! To dp marriage now a days i mean... Aha! See as you jejeley annalysed the Wedding wahala something.. **deep sigh.. Me ehnn! As you see me so Ajibike... My main koko issue with getting married eeezzz.. **Clears Throats.. Waaaiiitt for it.. **Whhispers... My Main wahala is HOW CAN I BE WATCHING ONLY NTA WHEN I CAN WATCH DSTV OUTSIDE.. hehehe i say that Jokingly oh! . heheh

    Mehn bubba.. the ish with marriages now a days is that it is just a big wahala now.. I mean from geRRing married.. To Staying married.. Inshort kneel down lemme pray for you.. Ajibike... god will bless you oh! I mean he will bless you well well for analyzing the cost to marry wife.. Aha! WaRRapIN ni?! SomeboRRy will pay Bride price.. Do introduction.. Do Mgba Ukwu.. Do Court wedding.. Then on top of all these wahala.. the same SomeboRRy will do white wedding on top! Aha! Is it Ritiual ni! ladies of now a days need to fear god oh!

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  9. Nice write up.

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  10. A man will always know when he is ready to marry...let them move round the world

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  11. Debbie where have you been? hope you are doing just fine. miss ya here.

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  12. Great post have missed you.. Thanks to God for the testimony.





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